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Nancy Dolan

Memorial created 06-21-2008 by
Nancy (Brad's Mom) Kadel Dolan
Bradley Louis Cordial
June 29 1985 - November 23 2002

 12 Years Later

     Just recently, I (Brad's Mom) attended a friend's wedding.  It was a beautiful wedding, but I didn't shed any tears during the ceremony.  Then, at the reception, the Groom's dance with his mother was announced.  As the groom and his mother took their place (in the center of the dance floor), I became so overwhelmed with emotion that tears began running down my face.  I knew that I would never be sharing a mother/son dance with Brad.        

     Even though, it has been 12 years, the realization of not being able to dance with my son at his wedding hit me like a "ton of bricks."  Of course, some people wondered why I was crying, but a friend of my husband's knew the reason.  As I was leaving, he gave me a hug and held me tight and said, "I knew this was going to be difficult for you."  Some remember and some don't.  Some understand and some don't.

     I think people who have lost a child (and are newer in their grief) look at me as an "grieving gauge," wondering what they might be like when they hit the 12-year-mark.  Am I still crying?  Do I laugh and love life? Do I still talk about my son?  No one should ever compare their grief to someone else's and no one should ever feel embarrassed for showing emotion at even the most unexpected times.  Now and then, I can still catch my husband off guard.  One minute I can be laughing with him and the next minute (out-of-the-blue), I can be a blubbering mess.

     Bottom line...I lost  a VERY important person in my life.  I LOST MY SON.  I grieve everyday for Brad.  Some days in silence and other days with heart-wrenching sobs.  Brad's sister's family and my husband and I will do what we do every Heaven day.  We will go to the intersection where my son's heart stopped beating and will release balloons with personal sentiments on them, while yelling, "We love you Brad.  We miss you Brad."  I guarantee...there will be tears.  But, they will be necessary tears.  They will be "healing" tears.

     I hope with all of my heart that Brad is "Dancing in the Sky."

"Dancing in the Sky" Lyrics

by Dani and Lizzy

 

Tell me what does it look like in Heaven?
Is it peaceful? Is it free like they say?
Does the sun shine bright forever?
Have your fears and your pain gone away?

'Cuz here on Earth it feels like everything,
good is missing, since you left,
And here on Earth everything's different,
there's an emptiness.

Ohhhhh, I hope you're dancing in the sky,
I hope you're singing, in the Angel's choir,
And I hope the Angels know what they have,
I'll bet it's so nice, up in Heaven since you arrived.

So tell me what do you do up in Heaven?
Are your days filled with love and light?
Is there music? Is there art and invention?
Tell me are you happy? Are you more alive?

'Cuz here on Earth, it feels like everything,
good is missing, since you left,
And here on Earth everything's different,
there's an emptiness.

Ohhhhh, I hope you're dancing in the sky,
And I hope you're singing, in the Angel's choir,
And I hope the Angels know what they have,
I'll bet it's so nice, up in Heaven since you arrived,
Since you arrived. 

 

 

 

 



 

 

 

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